How to Talk to Women

Most men never how to talk to women.  Because of this many guys go through life without the ability to attract a woman.
 
Instead they might:

• Bore her
• Struggle to keep her interested
• Not be able to make her laugh
• Can’t be yourself around her
• And create NO attraction

What type of talk turns women off?

1. To put it bluntly women are turned off by men who across as “needy.”  Most men don’t realize that they are coming across “needy” when talking to a woman.  But the woman picks up on it quickly.  She can very quickly tell that you’re trying too hard to impress her.  When a man tries to impress a woman it actually has the opposite effect.  It turns her off.
2. Women are not attracted to guys that come across as insecure.  You can’t talk to women and seem like a nervous wreck and expect her to feel attraction towards you.  A woman expects a man to be powerful, confident, and secure with himself.  If she senses that you don’t possess those traits she will quickly lose attraction towards you.
3. Women are turned off by guys who are “boring.”  If you’re talking a woman you need to know how to keep the conversation fun.  If you continually find yourself facing awkward silences, stuck in boring “interview mode” or talking about mundane topics like the weather… you can be sure that the woman you’re talking to will quickly lose interest.
4. One of the major factors that will kill a woman’s attraction toward you is displaying a lack of social intelligence.  Women are social creatures.  And they blindly follow the social “norms.”  If a man doesn’t seem aware of what is socially acceptable or “cool” she will quickly dismiss him as being “below” her.  An easy way to do display a lack of social intelligence while talking to a woman is to make an inappropriate comment, not take the “cues” she is sending you, or continually tell jokes that no one finds funny.

What type of talk turns women on?
a.)  You have to know how to talk to women in a way that brings out her fun, flirty, and playful side.  There is a how-to-talk-to-girls song “Girls Just Want to Have Fun…” and the song is correct.  This is especially true if you’re talking to a woman in a bar.  She is there to have fun.  You must be able to flirt with a woman in a way that makes her feel like she is back on the playground with her childhood crush.

b.) Women are creatures of emotions.  You must be able to talk to women in a way that brings on an emotional state within her.  You can do this by talking about emotional topics like her passions, childhood, vacations, or any other conversation topics that evoke emotion.  It is also helpful to inject emotional words into your conversation when describing something.  Instead of saying “it was fun.”  Instead say, “my heart was racing with the rush of adrenaline.”

c.) You need to display that you are a socially intelligent man.  Women are insanely turned on by men they believe have power, status, and social approval.  The great part is that you don’t necessarily have to have any of these.  You just have to talk to a woman in the same way that these sort of men would talk to her.  You have to talk to her from a place of power, status, and SLIGHT superiority.  Women are attracted to men they feel are slightly above them on the social ladder.

d.) You have to talk to her in a way that brings out her sexual side.  The fact is, you can be having the greatest conversation in the world about a topic like “health food” but it will rarely lead to attraction.  In order to talk to a woman in a way that leads to sexual attraction you must not be scared to talk about things on a more intimate level.  This doesn’t mean you talk about sex… but it does mean that you don’t shy away from personal and intimate topics.  These are the sort of topics that create rapport and have women start feeling a connection towards you.

The next question is how to talk to women in a way that gets women attracted to you?

Most guys don’t know how to carry a conversation with a woman, or talk to her in a way that makes her feel attraction to you.   Most guys just wind up boring women.

I have coached enough men to know that most of them will freeze up in front of a beautiful woman.  Or, they will become so nervous that they come across as insecure and boring.

Women expect a man to be able to LEAD a conversation in a fun, flirty, and sexy way.  She wants you to be able to make her laugh, smile, and feel safe and secure around you.

In brief, the key to attracting a woman is to talk to her in a way that makes her feel so much fun and enjoyment around you, while slowly letting the sexual tension build, and then being dominant enough to go in for the kiss at the exact moment she is waiting to be kissed.